Dealing With “Shy Librarian” Type Girls: The Art Of Conversation

Many years ago, I had a major crush on this shy girl. This crush lasted more than a year. But I never got with her because I just couldn’t ever get her to open up to me. She would never start conversations with me and when I spoke to her, she would only give me 2-word answers. So I automatically assumed she wasn’t interested. Not too long ago, I found out through a friend that this girl did like me but was too shy to tell me. She had such a big crush on me that she didn’t know what to say around me.


Had I just known how to get her to open up, I definitely would have hooked up with her. Times have changed and I’ve become more experienced with all types of women. I’ve learned how to get shy girls to open up. You have to understand that the reason they are shy is because they lack confidence. They’re not shy because they’re naturally quiet and boring. Believe me, shy girls are just as much fun in the bedroom as outgoing girls. Sometimes they’re even better because they will really let loose with a guy they trust. But before they are willing to get in bed with a guy, they need to trust you. So that’s exactly what you must do – build up her trust by opening her up through great conversation.

Tips for getting her to open up to you

  • Smile frequentlyShy women are afraid to communicatewith some men because they automatically assume a guy is an asshole. If you show her, by smiling, that you’re not an asshole, she’ll probably feel more comfortable around you.

    Smile frequently

    Smile frequently

  • Don’t ask her why she’s so shy – Shy women are shy because they lack confidence. Do you really think she’s going to come out and say that? She knows why she’s shy and will feel like you’re insulting her by asking why she’s so shy.

    Don’t ask her why she’s so shy

    Don’t ask her why she’s so shy

  • Ask her non-intimidating questions – You might have to ask a handful of questionsbefore she starts giving you complete answers. But if you’re persistent and show her that you’re friendly and want to talk about the things she’s interested in, she’ll eventually open up to you. Good questions to ask include what she does for a living, what her interests are, where her favorite places to travel are, etc.

    Ask her non-intimidating questions

    Ask her non-intimidating questions

Getting a shy girl to open up to you is all about building trust. Shy girls have a way of no longer being shy when they’re around someone they’re comfortable with. They may be completely silent around most people, but if they trust you, they’ll yap away about anything. And never assume just because she’s shy that it means she’s boring. Shy girls can actually be a lot of fun to hangout with and are often incredible fuck buddies. They love sex just as much as an outgoing girl. You just have to work a little harder to get her in your bed.